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All winners means that everybody can win. It is not about YOU and ME, win-win is about BOTH OF US. It is about finding a solution where everybody will benefit. It is about EVERYONE is happy.
It’s different from compromise, because in a compromise everybody gives a little. In win - win you take two ideas from both people and then find the THIRD ALTERNATIVE which will be better than each idea on its own.
Covey developed what he called “6 Paradigms for Human Interaction”. They are based on something called Games Theory:
- Win/Win
- Win/Lose
- Lose/Win
- Lose/Lose
- Win
- No Deal
Win/Win: A principle that constantly seeks for mutual benefit in all interactions. With a Win/Win solution all parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action plan.
Win/Lose: This is an authoritarian approach where I must get my way, no matter what the cost to you.
Lose/Win: This is the kind of leader who seeks strength from popularity. People who are so desperate want to “be friends” with other people that they set no standards; have no vision; make no demands. On the other hand it also can be a situation where you want to work on relationship building instead of winning and for example take less in consideration what you need yourself at that moment.
Lose/Lose: Often comes about when 2
Win/Lose people interact and they become so obsessed with the other person “losing” that they don’t care if they lose as well.
Win: Many people have this principle. They don’t care if the other people win or lose, they are not out for revenge or victory as long as they get what they want, they leave it to others to get what they want as well.
No Deal: This situation is what Covey calls an even higher expression of Win/Win. It basically means that if we can’t find a Win/Win there is no deal. It’s a very liberating and open principle.
Some indicators that you are a All Winners person:
- I can solve a problem when an issue comes up with another person and let both of us have a good feeling afterwards.
- I think about what other people want and not only about what I need or want.
- I am kind to others and try to think of ways so that everybody is happy.
When you want to learn more about why you are acting like you do, perhaps this test to define your motivations is worth doing.
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- Think about your general attitude in life. Is it win/lose, lose/win, lose/lose or win/win? Which influence has this attitude on your life?
- Think of a person that you find a typical example of win/win. What do you admire in this person?
- It's hard for me to think Win/Win when…
- It’s easiest for me to think Win/Win when…
- List a specific situation that you may face in the next few days that needs Win/Win thought.
- How will you prepare yourself to think Win/Win? X